"My child doesn't read."

 

One of the phrases we most dislike hearing in the library is “my child doesn’t read.” (Especially when uttered in front of the child, reinforcing this perception of themselves.)  So, what are some strategies you can use as a parent when a child really doesn’t enjoy reading?

1.       Find out why they don’t enjoy reading.  Is it difficult for them to read? Sometimes a reluctance to read is an indication of a learning disability and the letters just don’t make sense to them. Working with a teacher familiar with learning disabilities could help you brainstorm solutions.  Perhaps the child hasn’t found a book they really connect with and need help with selection.  Children’s librarians love to help you find the perfect book to start that connection!  Are they too distracted by technology (TV/gaming/phone)?  Perhaps limiting online time as a chance to explore other things is the answer.  (But please, don’t use reading as a punishment!)

2.       The Power of Choice.  Is your child allowed to choose their own reading material?  Allowing them to choose what appeals to them gives children a sense of empowerment and a thrill of discovery.

3.       Reading as connection. Reading with your child is an emotionally bonding experience that promotes closeness.  When you read to a child, you are giving your full attention to the child as well as the book.  The cuddling, physical attention, and eye contact are just as important as the book you are sharing.  You are building emotional intelligence and empathy as you explore the emotions of the characters you are reading about.  Asking them to predict what happens next encourages them to think ahead and make connections. The bonding they have with you while reading together easily translates into a love for reading in general. 

4.       Reading aloud/Audiobooks.  In a similar vein, listening comprehension is always higher that reading comprehension when a child starts to read.  Giving kids a chance to hear a story while reading aloud gives them a chance to hear the way a text should sound.  It sparks an interest in reading as it allows them to access a more complex plot/language than they can access on their own. Some parents believe audiobooks to be less valuable than reading, when in actuality, both stimulate brain connections and a love for one can easily translate into love for another.

5.       Reading as a reward.  Is reading in your household a punishment or a reward?  Allowing time to read together before bedtime or as a special treat, especially when they are allowed to choose the book makes a big difference in attitudes toward reading.  Sometimes reading can feel hard with especially challenging books, and it is good to remind a reader how far they’ve come and when it seems hard, that is when they are growing new brain connections and getting smarter.

6.       Modeling reading.  The best way to get your kids enthusiastic about reading is to lead by example.  Read books you enjoy and they will see that joy shine through and want to share the experience.